I am still feeling some lingering disgruntlement over the lackluster ending of House, one of my favorite TV shows of the past few years. The last episode of its eight year run concluded a week ago Monday. The catchphrases of the show was ‘everybody lies’ and ‘people can’t change.’ Though this latter issue was debated and tested in many story lines – especially in the shows philosophical but fairly undramatic final hour – we could rest assured that no one changed. If House weren’t so witty and the medical dilemmas so compelling, I would have deserted months ago. That question about change lingered though, and it felt important to be there at the end to gather in what wisdom there was to be wrung from the wrap up of the doctor’s time with us. The ultimate To Be or Not To Be inner debate (complete with unsubtle house afire imagery) seemed like just so much vanity about whether the star should continue to keep up a great franchise when he’s ready to go off and spend his fortune and fame enjoying himself.
I’m not saying I blame him. Hugh Laurie did a wonderful job portraying a fascinating, misanthropic cynic. Did all that cash change Hugh Laurie? I have no way of knowing, but that kind of success – he went from character actor in British period dramas and playing roles like Stuart Little’s Dad to the highest paid actor on U.S. television because of the show’s popularity – opens up endless opportunities for him to do exactly what he wants. What he wants seems to be to be a blues musician sans the suffering and poverty. It sounds good to me. (I just learned in searching for an image for him that Mr. Laurie is, in fact, performing his blues music at the Uptown Theater in Napa tonight.)
We all count on the proposition that characters in episodic television don’t really change, even if they struggle mightily to do so. For political candidates, on the other hand, constancy is currency. They promise never to change, especially if granted their wish to gain a high elected office. Though we all know they will probably flip-flop. Mitt Romney doesn’t even profess a need to change over the shearing episode wherein he assaulted a fellow prep school student one year his junior. (Here is the Washington Post article on this topic.) These were collegial hijinks, is how Romney frames it. He needn’t be culpable because frat boys will be frat boys, yes? And it’s not like he was drinking too much, like W, who did talk openly about how he was changed by the love of a good woman in order to convince voters that his past irresponsibility was behind him.
So I wonder, as many others have before me, do people ever really change? Sure. They mature and settle down or break out and go wild, depending on what their starting place was. Other people break their hearts and eventually go on or build up the courage to start a business after years of working for someone else. When we choose to act, it often brings about change or allows some part of ourselves to come through in unexpected and freeing ways. Our same beloved characters – if they are in a movie and not a sitcom – better change or no one at the executive level will ever shoot that script. It is a must that movie characters show that they are dynamic, preferably by page 56. ☺
I can’t really say how I’ve changed over the years. My temperament is very similar to what it was when I started keeping a journal at age 12. I think I’ve gotten a bit smarter about some things and more tolerant about others. I’ve tried new things and lost some bravery in certain areas while gaining it in others. I know for certain, though, that my tastes have changed. I always liked to try new foods as a kid but some of the more exotic things to try don’t interest me any more, and other basic flavors that I never liked I now embrace willingly.
I find it interesting how people’s tastes expand with time. I won’t even assume that we always even know our own tastes. How many times has my daughter said she doesn’t like something like cauliflower, when she’s never tried it. I used to do the same. This is shorthand for ‘it doesn’t smell good, it’s too pale and it looks like it’ll squish between my teeth and make me want to gag. Keep it away from me.’ I always steered clear of banana-related desserts, though I liked a good old banana just fine. Now, I’d walk a country mile for a good slice of banana cream pie and banana bread is one of the things I make and enjoy often. For years, I could say I only had two food dislikes and those were curry and ginger. I’d shudder at the sound of ginger crème brulee or ice cream. Now, while I still don’t like the pink sliced ginger on the sushi tray or crystallized candied ginger because it’s too intense, I have come over to the ginger camp fairly readily. That ginger based salad dressing is now a favorite. I’ve even discovered that if I bake a pan of gingerbread and don’t try to equate that with the dried out stick-figure cookies I previously thought were the sum total of gingerbread’s fame, I love the stuff. (The gift of a fresh gingerbread house was actually my undoing at the start of this past holiday season. I couldn’t keep away from it.) A friend took me out to lunch a few days ago and we chose to share a slice of ginger cake served in a pool of caramel sauce with a scoop of pumpkin ice cream. Divine. Park Chow is the place that perpetrated this four-star dessert, if you live in the Bay Area.
I’m glad for the expansion of tastes, like the expansion of horizons, in the culinary arc of me and my family. I have creative control, for the most part, and it’s fine with me if I take several seasons to build up to a taste plateau before I decide I need to develop new story lines or challenges. I don’t have to worry about ratings, at least not beyond the fan base of those who share a place at the table. I do love getting a big thumbs up on what I serve folks, of course.
Below I offer recipes for two favorite baked goods that I make regularly but would have rejected, politely but firmly, not so long ago.
Makes one 9-inch loaf
1-1/2 cups all purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 pinch salt
½ cup chocolate chips
½ cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, room temperature
½ cup brown sugar
½ cup granulated sugar
2 large eggs
1 cup mashed ripe bananas (about 3 bananas)
2 tablespoons fresh orange juice
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Preheat oven to 350° F. Butter and flour 9x 5x 2-½-inch metal loaf pan. Whisk first 4 (dry) ingredients in medium bowl to blend.
Beat butter in large bowl until fluffy. Gradually add sugar, beating until well blended. Beat in eggs 1 at a time. Beat in mashed bananas, orange juice and vanilla extract. Beat in flour mixture. Spoon ½ of batter into prepared pan. Sprinkle with half of the chocolate chips. Spoon 1/3 of batter over. Sprinkle with remaining chips. Cover with remaining batter. Run knife through batter in zigzag pattern.
Bake bread until tester inserted into center comes out clean, about 55 minutes. After 5 minutes out of the oven, turn loaf out onto rack to cool.
(Recipe from the Williams Sonoma desserts book. They serve it with whipped cream, but if you have caramel sauce and pumpkin ice cream lying around…I recommend it.)
1-2/3 cups (235g) all purpose four, plus extra for dusting
¾ teaspoon baking powder
¼ teaspoon baking soda
1 ½ tsp ground ginger
1 tsp ground cinnamon
¼ tsp freshly grated nutmeg
¼ tsp salt
6 tbsp (90 g) unsalted butter, at room temperature
½ cup (125g) firmly packed dark brown sugar
2 large eggs, at room temperature
1 tsp finely grated orange zest (optional)
½ cup (170 g) light molasses
½ cup warm water
sweetened whipped cream
Preheat the oven to 350°F (180°C). Lightly grease an 8-inch (20-cm) square baking dish and dust with flour.
In a bowl, whisk together the flour, baking powder, baking soda, ginger, cinnamon, nutmeg, and salt until well blended. Set aside. In another bowl, using a mixer on medium speed, beat together the butter and brown sugar until well blended and fluffy. Add the eggs one at a time, beating well after each addition, until just blended. Add the zest, if using, and beat until blended. Continue beating while slowly adding the molasses. Sprinkle the flour mixture over the egg mixture and stir until just incorporated. Add the water and stir until blended. Pour into the prepared pan and spread evenly.
Bake until gingerbread is puffed and a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean, about 35 minutes. Let cool on a rack. Cut into squares and serve warm or at room temperature with a dollop of whipped cream.
Makes 9 servings.
Tara N said:
Growing up, unadulterated banana bread was a family favorite and I believed one should never mess success. After, to my initial horrow, my sister had the audacity to alter our family recipe by adding chocolate chips a few years back, I have changed my taste and never looked back. That is some fine looking BB in the picture!
Thanks, it wasn’t bad at all. I’m glad you became a choc-chip convert. Chocolate and banana is such a great combination.
Tastes change over time if given enough exposure. Can come from parents or by being on your own in the world. One thing that never works is a battle between parents and children, because the children always win (to their detriment, unfortunately).
Glad to see you turned out well after all. Thumbs up.
PS. Pink sliced ginger on a sushi tray is an abomination, right? The real stuff is a pale off-white.
Ah, that must be why I couldn’t abide it. I must’ve known it was an abomination on some level. 🙂 But I agree, people’s tastes ought to be respected – though I pity people who go through life not liking garlic. Thanks for stopping by!
I have always thought that our tastes change–not just in food preference but in matters of intellect, aesthetics, and morality. That is why “House” always offended me but I like banana bread (well, at least for the past couple of years).
I agree that if we are awake and willing to take in new information, then we ought to evolve as people and thinkers That’s the hope. Look at Arianna Huffington! And I think Disraeli was quite the progressive in his youth and wound up ultra conservative. Thanks for the thoughtful comment, Wayne, and for stopping by!
Vinny Grette said:
Thoughtful, serious post. As for House, it seems the final message the writers wanted to impart was “Enjoy yourself… it’s later than you think. Enjoy yourself… while your still in the pink! Enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself, it’s later than you think!” I definitely remember this lyric and seem to recall it was associated with a commercial of some sort… I hadn’t made the association between the house on fire and House’s flameout – good one!
I did chuckle when that song came on. A tongue-in-cheek carpe diem, right?
House was no stranger to reckless fun, I’d say, but if he went out truly enjoying himself then I won’t quibble.
A favorite moment of mine, for quality writing and character development on that show, came in season 7 (assuming you regularly watch the show?) when we are led to believe he’s going to jump off a hotel balcony to kill himself, the despair of Cuddy’s breakup finally catching up with him. Instead, his leap leads to a spectacular plunge into the hotel’s swimming pool below and he comes up to shout the call and response to the young bar patrons/football fans nearby: “What do we do when we win? Party! What do we do when we lose? Party harder!” There are cheers and other young idiots jump into the pool to clap him on the back and give him a beer. We see a big smile on House’s face. It seems like a breakthrough moment for him, yet worriesome at the same time. Great stuff.
Vinny Grette said:
Yes, a carpe diem indeed – but also, it’s a call not to put off what’s important in life. Do you have a bucket list? One would hope it’s not ALL about enjoying one’s self. You also want to leave some kind of legacy… I think House has done that. But his “really” big breakthrough is realizing that his friendship with Wilson is at the top of his own personal bucket list. P.S. I LOVE Hugh Laurie and wish him every happiness in his new endeavors!
Thanks, I agree, re ambitions and legacies. I love Hugh Laurie too – I do hope he keeps coming to work *somewhere* so we can enjoy him. Is that selfish? 🙂 And also, this is a favorite bit I caught a few years ago. Laurie singing “Mystery” from his early sketch comedy show A bit of Fry and Laurie. He wrote it too I assume. So talented and clever. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=__DrJI7mTHQ
What perfect zen! I cleaned out my fridge yesterday and have a bunch of bananas from the freezer just waiting for banana bread. 🙂 I don’t have recipe yet that I truly love, so I was going to search for one, and then yours popped up! I’m going to use it this afternoon. Thank you very much!
As for the rest of your blog post — you bring up so many great points. And I’m thrilled to hear you’ve kept a journal since age 12! What a gift — to yourself. It really is. To see how you’ve grown and changed (and if) is such a remarkable thing. I’ve found, as I’ve grown, that I am happiest when I reconnect with my childhood self. The one who knew what she wanted just because she knew.
My mother kept us, thankfully, pretty insulated from commercialism and television. Oh, we watched TV for sure. But not during the week. And not until our homework was done on the weekends. Which lent for a lot, a LOT of time for free play. It’s when there are no outside influences that we can define our true self, and if I was to “change” at this point in my life, I hope it would be in a direction back to that little girl, so happy and free and full of wonder.
I can’t say whether or not people change. My guess is that, of course. We must. Or nothing would have the possibility of getting better.
A lovely and generous comment, thank you! I’m so glad about the banana bread synchronicity. I really like this recipe and think orange juice instead of lemon is key.
I’m still thinking about the change issue because of great comments like yours in response to my post. There are those tough cases who say they won’t change and dig their heels in, which can cause a lot of misery when they are sorts that really, really should. But then some people won’t budge because they have the courage of their convictions and believe in themselves too and that can be the sort of hero or heroine that worlds turn on.
I look at my daughter, who is very tender hearted and won’t eat crab because ‘they’re cute’ and even if as she grows she changes her mind, she will in her essence still be that tender-hearted creature even as her experience broadens and she takes on new habits and traits. So maybe the idea of “change” is too simple.
Thanks again for your thoughts – I love that connection with the childhood self and the trying to be ‘true’ to her. It’s a treasure, I know just what you mean.
Oh my word — that banana bread is out of this world. Delicious!!! 🙂 I made it this afternoon (the kids helped a little) and we all enjoyed it just now, after dinner. It was so good I had to log in and tell you right away! Mmm… I doubled the recipe, so now I have two loaves, and I’m sure they’ll be gone very soon. I substituted wheat flour for half the flour, got to get some fiber in, plus I love the taste. Other than that, I didn’t change a thing. Which is unusual for me. And I agree. Definitely the orange juice tied it all together. I’m so glad you posted this recipe, and that I saw it right when I needed it! Thank you!
Oh, yay!! Thanks very much for letting me know. 🙂 I’m happy that you think it’s a winner. I may try the wheat flour too.
I’m going to try to make this banana bread today after class! I hope it’s as good as yours!
I’m sure it’ll turn out great.
Just bake with love and a pure heart 🙂
Very cool to see your Q&A in the Guardian!
Thanks! And the banana bread was a screaming success! 😀